Self-Esteem Contingencies describe people who are selective about the areas on which they base their self-esteem. Three studies were conducted by EJ Horberg and Serena Chen at the University of California, Berkley, on significant others and the contingencies of self-esteem. Three studies tested the activation and consequences of self-esteem contingencies associated with specific significant others, that is, relationship-specific self-esteem contingencies. The results showed that activating the mental representation of a significant other with whom one strongly likes or is close allows participants to risk their self-esteem in areas in which the significant other wanted them to excel. This was demonstrated in terms of self-reported self-esteem contingencies (Study 1), in terms of self-esteem after receiving feedback on a successful or unsatisfactory performance in a specific contingency area of ​​the relationship (Study 2), and in terms of feelings of low self-esteem after thinking about failure in a relationship-specific contingency area (Study 3). Different emergency areas were examined in the studies. Furthermore, Study 3 demonstrated that failure in a specific contingency area of ​​the activated relationship had negative implications for current feelings of closeness and acceptance in the relationship with the significant other. Overall, the findings suggest that people's self-esteem contingencies depend on that particular social situation and that performance in relationship-specific contingency areas can influence people's ideas about their relationships (Holberg & Chen, 2010). Contingencies of self-esteem and self-esteem can have an effect on the pursuit of one's goals. Goal Pursuit Throughout the social psychology community, it is believed that Mr....... half of the paper ...... ry. It is clear that a person's thoughts, experiences, and opinions, both interpersonal and intrapersonal, shape the self. Relationships between significant others seem to have the most influential effects on oneself. Therefore, the relational self could be defined as the self experienced in relation to significant others in a person's life. Future research on this topic could address how the relational self is relevant to other psychological concepts such as attachment to parents and peers. The strength of the relationship would influence the extent to which the effect would actually have. It would also be interesting to possibly study negative attitudes toward significant others and the transference that occurs within such relationships. Examples might be: rebellious teenagers and their parents, long-standing feuds between family members, neighbors or colleagues.