Women have always been known as the weaker gender and are protected more often when it comes to violence due to their lack of size and strength, but their difference in size doesn't mean they are harmless, it means they have to do everything they can to inflict pain in every way possible. Women are motivated to use violence in the form of intimidation, anger, and punishment of their partner's misbehavior (Straus 338). In the book Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence, Cook notes that “although there were fewer female offenders than male offenders, women appeared more dangerous than men when they actually became delinquents” (20). The patterns of violence used by women tend to be throwing something or using a weapon (Cook 22). Women are more protected in domestic violence and when they initiate violence it is most likely because it was self-defense, but men are not allowed to use self-defense because the man who defends himself is considered the aggressor, even if they are not them to do it. initiate violence. Even when the police are involved and they know the victim is a man, they will always protect women first and assume the man was the aggressor. Ultimately men are stuck between a rock and a hard place