Guidelines are as follows: “consider the motivation for self-disclosure,” “consider the appropriateness of self-disclosure,” “consider disclosures of the other person” and “consider the possible burdens that self-disclosure might entail” (DeVito 2013). I have personally used or violated each of these guidelines. The guideline I violated is to not consider the burdens that self-disclosure might entail. In the past, I have helped spread rumors about other people, simply to draw more attention to myself. In doing so, I didn't think about the feelings of others and how they might be affected by revealing such information was most likely false, I put a burden on another person. Now I realize this is not a correct way to do a self-disclosure, but when it comes to the other guidelines, I believe I have used them all correctly before self-disclosure, I always consider the motivation for what I am about to say, making sure it is for the good of the relationship and everyone involved. I also consider the appropriateness of self-disclosure by ensuring that information is communicated in the right place at the right time. And finally, I consider the other person's revelations by allowing them to reveal them as