As a result, this could cause a problem because it may seem like our integrity is being questioned. When our integrity is called into question, it will inevitably cause conflict because of how we see ourselves. Another key part of a marriage falling apart due to self-justification can be simply because one spouse may focus only on what their partner is doing wrong, without addressing what they are doing and cloaking it in their own self-justifying actions . In the text the very helpful recommendation is made by the authors saying, “Successful partners extend to each other, the same self-forgiving ways of thinking that we extend to ourselves.” This is profound and can be applied in other places other than marriage or relationships, such as in our daily interactions with the people we meet. If we, as a culture, learn to allow forgiveness for others as easily as we do for ourselves, many problems can be solved. We often see in the media displays of people who are so adamant about holding grudges for things that others have done to them, their culture, race, gender or sexual-based group in the past, all the while excusing what they have done with what they think is a valid reason for their actions. This simply perpetuates the cycle of actions that demonstrate dissonance and are then cushioned by self-justification; that bring us, as a people, no closer to solving an ongoing problem than to addressing it