The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science Tells Us About Life After Loss, written by George A. Bonanno, illustrates the ways in which different people deal with loss in different ways and Even so, most of us are resistant to loss. Death is an inevitable phase that every person must face. In the course of one's life, everyone is destined to face the pain of death in the course of their life. But how can we do it? Is there a “correct” or “normal” way, or a period of time we should use, to recover after a major loss? Bonanno delves into ways we deal with grief and loss that are contrary to what is generally assumed. We may be surprised, even hurt, by a loss, but we still manage to pull ourselves together and move forward. One of the recurring arguments made in The Other Side of Sadness: What New Science Tells Us About Life After Loss is that resilience after loss is real, prevalent, and long-lasting. Bonanno is able to provide compelling evidence to show the different patterns or trajectories of grief reactions over time exhibited by bereaved people. It also explains in depth how pain is not work, clarifying how emotions work to help us cope with challenging environments. Bonanno manages to allow readers to be aware of what people suffer after a serious loss: they don't grieve for the facts, they grieve for what they remember. Additionally, Bonanno explains how death arouses both terror and curiosity to help his readers conceptualize death. Bonanno essentially states that resilience is genuine and long-lasting because it is part of our human capacity to thrive in the face of adversity. “Grief is not a one-dimensional experience. It's not the same for everyone and it doesn't seem like there's...half of the paper...the hip is still alive. As readers, we feel like there is power in these memories. It becomes relevant to the readers' lives because from the way he describes it, we are able to relate it to every aspect of our lives. For example, a loved one does not have to die to be considered a “loss,” you can lose a friend for any reason or end a relationship with your significant other. In any case, even when it seems like we have lost someone forever, we discover that there is still something to hold on to, something that nourishes us, something that is almost better than the memory. Bonanno believes that resilient people are essentially less likely than others to use avoidance and distraction as coping approaches. In summary, Bonanno argues that resilient people are less inclined to avoid thinking about the loss, or to intentionally occupy their minds to avoid facing the agony..