Goals are defined as “what each person wants” (Wilmot & Hocker, 2011, p.72) Goals can also be seen as a desired goal or outcome. As for goals, we often try to achieve and accomplish goals in our relationships. However, we often fail to achieve these goals due to existing conflicts, poor communication or conflict styles. An ongoing conflict between two parties can be very difficult to manage, especially when you are dealing with someone who chooses not to acknowledge the conflict. . There is an ongoing power struggle based on this conflict, when the other side takes part in avoidance. Because of this, reaching or reaching your ultimate goal of conflict resolution becomes quite difficult. There are four types of lenses. Conflicting power can be “designated (power given by your position), distributive (either/or power), and integrative (both/power).” (Wilmot & Hocker, 2011, p.103) My current boss is considered as designated power or when I was a retail store manager. Wilmot and Hocker explain: “Distributive power is either over or against the other party.” (Wilmot & Hocker, 2011, p. 102) Ultimately, I have the power to forgive my mother without her having to apologize and simply move on. Integrative power focuses on “(both/and) both parties must achieve something in the relationship” (Wilmot & Hocker, 2011, p. 102). Both my mother and I need to gain forgiveness towards each other. Power can be at the heart of conflict in a relationship. When there is an expressed struggle, power within the relationship is often at its limit. I learned by completing the “Assess My Conflict Style” journal assignment that; my general conflict style is compromise and my mother's is avoidance. In the conflict, with me and my mother, I noticed that I'm always the one who says, ok mom, I see you don't want to talk about our problems. So, I suggest we communicate our problems at a different time and place, we both agree and it ends there. Needless to say, this is definitely a downside to my compromising conflict style. In the end I don't get what I want, which is to have the conversation while my mother is satisfied because we don't have the dreaded conversation. It's always like this, with my mother's conflict avoidance style we never get anywhere. Nonetheless. I am confident because now he knows that I have been suffering for a long time. I believe it would be beneficial to our conflict if I started working more on using additional conflict styles. If I allow myself to be more accommodating and recognize that resolving this conflict isn't easy even for my mother. I have to learn that sometimes my needs can be secondary, in order to possibly make some progress in that moment. My mother may avoid problems because she isn't sure how to deal with them. I also recognize that collaborating with my mother and working to find an agreeable solution