The fourth and final step of the marriage process is to become one flesh. According to freedictionary.com, become means “to grow or become” or “to be appropriate or suitable; develop or grow; be appropriate; It is worth it." Becoming is a process that takes time and work. Tim Keller states that to call a union marriage, “sex is intended both as a sign of that personal and legal union and as a means to bring it about. The Bible says not to join with someone physically unless you are willing to join with that person also emotionally, personally, socially, economically and legally. Do not become physically naked and vulnerable to another person without becoming vulnerable in any other way, because you have given up your freedom and bound yourself to marriage. (Keller pg. 215) God's plan is supposed to be fulfilled on the wedding night when the two complete their marriage vows by having sex. It is clear that “they will become one only flesh” is an indirect term for sex, but it is also more than just sex. Becoming one means being on the same page, mind and agreement 'action. Together one path and they share one authority, one heart, one body, one mind, one thought, one church and one God. The spouses become one flesh in every sense of the word. All of these areas of unity are important because division in any of them will trip them up. The idea of ​​“two becoming one flesh” is a vivid and dramatic image of the relationship. And by saying that it is something more than sex or something other than sex, you miss the meaning and purpose of sex. I agree with Mark Driscoll, in his book Real Marriage, on his statement that husband and wife, a man and a woman must become one through "c...... middle of paper ......r of the Lord and the ultimate dependence on His grace and love. Then, as I submit to His will, I also lay my marriage and my wife at His feet. After that, I believe I must make the conscious decision to love my wife regardless of circumstances and situations we face. This part is extremely important. It is a rational resolution, not conditioned by, but which will prevail despite the actions or feelings. Next, pray for the cultivation of the fruits of the spirit, love, patience, the kindness, etc. be the center of our marriage as we both seek to understand and love each other better. Ultimately, intentional time together to grow in the Lord, pray, and enjoy each other will form the foundation of a marriage rooted in God. These steps solidify a foundation upon which we can build and grow our covenant with the Lord and with each other.