However, the result of external sanctions such as negative questioning and staring put me in an uncomfortable position. In my particular violation of gender norms, I felt that being polite and holding the door open was appropriate, however with the addition of the negative input about my actions from men it was meant to remind me of who I am and what gender I am. I could see how the position I had been placed in during the violation could motivate me to conform and avoid certain behaviors in public. The socialization of gender behaviors comes from the concept of the nuclear family and how men are expected to be the head of the home or provider. Therefore, it is assumed that the man is the one who holds the door open or pulls up a chair so that someone can sit and attend to the woman's needs. Social control mechanisms such as gender socialization and external sanctions are used for conformity between